Some days ago I had an interesting discussion with my son who is 22 years old. I told him how nowadays I think about the days when I will have a grandchild and to my utter surprise, he said, “Oh Mamma, Stop Daydreaming. I will never have a child. Why bring a person in the world when that person has not asked you to bring him /her into this chaotic and messed up the planet”.
I was taken aback. “But every person wants to have a biological child. And For-Your-Information, I have spent 25 years of my career helping couples to have a baby and I have seen couples experiencing ultimate bliss and happiness when they have a baby and Babies are so cute !!. So you must also have one, someday”, I replied
“So, you mean to say that, for my selfish interests and maybe for your selfish interest, I should bring a child and put him into a world that will have so many challenges in the next few years. Look, I am 22 now, so by the time I have a child it will be the year, 2032 or 2034. So when the child becomes 25 years old, it will be the year 2057 or 2058. Do you think the world will be worth living by then?? Think of the difficulties the child will face. You will not be alive then, but for your selfish interest, you would have put life into trouble. The population is increasing so much, the environment is getting worse day by day and there is so much hatred and wars in the name of religion, caste and creed.
I thought maybe this cynicism has come from watching too many sci-fi movies showing apocalypse happening and the end of the world. But, for some time I was definitely speechless, though I did try to continue defending my side
But I really thought, let’s take an opinion of all the couples who come to me for treatment and find out what is the driving force behind their decision to go ahead with so many treatments and sometimes hardships of taking injections and undergoing surgeries to have a baby. So I asked this question to about 100 of my patients and these were the various answers I came across repeatedly and I am quoting them unedited
Reasons given:
- We want to have a family of our own. We have lived as a couple but we want to have something that belongs to both of us, a child who will share our genes, our features, our habits
- We want to experience unconditional Love which we can have only by having a baby. I want the joy of seeing the baby grow into a beautiful human being
- Family is putting a lot of pressure, everyone, and everywhere keeps asking this question of why we are not having a baby. It is getting very difficult to be socially acceptable to go on living without a child
- To prevent the husband from remarrying and to save my marriage is my primary reason to conceive, otherwise, I would be okay to stay without a child of my own. This was the explanation given by a few women
- I want to have somebody to care for us when we become old
- I will want to give all the Love to the child, all that which I didn’t receive …This was also one reason given by a husband who was of an affluent background but had a stepmother
- The husband will not stray and will remain loyal in the marriage due to the responsibility of the baby (Really???)
- I have one child but now I want a second one to give company to my first. There should be someone of his own family even after we have left this world
- I want to prove my masculinity/feminity by having a baby. I want to prove to the world that I am also capable of bearing a child
- One elderly couple also gave an explanation that they will be able to inherit property only if they have a biological child of their own
The reasons may be varied but all I have understood is that besides being a biological instinct, there are many social, financial and personal reasons for having children.
Whatever the reason may be, we all should remember to make Mother Earth a safer place, where we should be able to nurture many more generations to come. I knew that I had my answers ready to prove my point to my son.
Take care and Stay Safe!
Homeopathy Doctor in Pune, Best Homeopathy Doctors In PuneHomeopathy Medicines In Kalyani Nagar - Looking for the Homeopathy clinic in Pune?
Dr. Tushar Apte is one of the best Homeopathy Doctor in Pune, Provides treatment at Shivam Hoeopathic Clinic at Kondhwa, Viman Nagar & Karve Road Clinic.http://homoeopathypune.com/Shivam Homeopathic Pharmacy & Clinic is the best Homeopathic Medicine Retailer in Pune.
Find ✓Homeopathic Doctors, ✓Homeopathic Clinics, Call: 9518978093https://shivamhomeopathicpharmacyclinickondhwapune.business.site/https://shivam-homeopathic-pharmacy-clinic-viman-nagar-kharadi-pune.business.site/
We are fully furnished with best in class latest technology, state-of-the-art infrastructure, and the best gynecologist in Varanasi which caters to a host of infertility treatments.
If you are thinking of getting IVF treatment in Varanasi then book your appointment at the best IVF center, which is non-other than Meridian IVF center.
With the best Infertility doctor in Varanasi, the center is among the reputed IVF centers in Varanasi.
