Bed-Wetting - When Cures Can Be Worse Than the Disease

There are many issues in psychology that both interest and puzzle me but there is one in particular that I am especially curious about and interested in-people's attitudes toward various management techniques for nocturnal enuresis (the clinical term for bed-wetting) particularly in older children hotel mattress, adolescents, teenagers, and adults. Although this is not a psychological issue per se; how people react to, interact with, and perceive individuals using protective garments to manage their bed-wetting has psychological ramifications for these individuals. Depending on how other people respond to the incontinent individual the ramifications can be either positive or negative. I have read a fair amount about this subject and this article is a distillation of this knowledge.

This article discusses my thoughts and feelings on the stigma associated with the use of diapers to manage bed-wetting, a brief discussion about the different types of diapers to manage bed-wetting, how to deal with the possibility of teasing from siblings, various ways to deal with the stigma associated with using diapers for bed-wetting, psychological techniques a person can use to help him or her come to terms with using diapers to manage bed-wetting, ways to be discreet about diaper use and bed-wetting, and ideas I have for a reward system designed to encourage a reluctant youngster to wear diapers to bed in order to more effectively manage his or her bed-wetting. This article is long but I feel it covers a lot of useful information for both bed-wetters and their parents. The article is broken down into several sections for easier reading. The introduction discusses various treatments for bed-wetting and why in some cases they can be worse than the disease, the second part is called "Types and Brands of Diapers to Use" and is an overview of the various diapers available to manage bed-wetting in older children, adolescents, teenagers, and adults. This section also lists various companies that sell these diapers and their contact info.

The third part is called "Reasons for the Stigma Surrounding Diaper Use in Older Bed-Wetters" This section discusses what I feel are the reasons behind the stigma associated with using diapers in older children, adolescents, teenagers, and adults that wet the bed and ways society can reduce the stigma, the fourth part is called "Will Wearing Diapers Decrease the Motivation to Achieve Dryness?" There is a theory that wearing diapers for bed-wetting will decrease the incentive to achieve dryness. This section discusses why I feel this won't be the case. The fifth part is called "Thoughts on the Development of Our Ideas Regarding This Issue." The sixth part of this article is called "How to Encourage Older Children, Adolescents, and Teenagers to Wear Diapers to Bed and Other Issues." This part offers several strategies and methods a parent can use to motivate and encourage a youngster who is reluctant to wear diapers to bed. In addition the section talks about issues of discretion and psychological techniques a youngster can employ to help them cope with wearing diapers to bed. Finally there is part 7. This part is called "Should Parents Require Their Older Child, Adolescent, or Teenager to Wear Diapers to Bed?" This section discusses why I feel parents should require their bed-wetting youngster to wear diapers to bed. It also talks more about how to approach them about this topic and how to encourage them to wear diapers to bed.

Introduction-When Cures Can Be Worse Than the Disease

Bed-wetting for many youngsters can be extremely traumatic-there is the potential for teasing from siblings and other family members, punishment from parents, and the possibility of their peers discovering it especially if the youngster wants to attend sleepovers.

Although many cases of bed-wetting can be cured using medicines, alarms, and other methods there are cases of bed-wetting persisting into adult years. In fact many adults suffer from bed-wetting their whole lives. The statistics vary but anywhere from 2 to 3% of adults wet the bed. Due to the negative image associated with enuresis we should consider the possibility that these figures might be significantly higher. Just as some rape victims are reluctant to report their rape because they feel ashamed, many adult bed wetters could be reluctant to see a doctor because of the shame they are experiencing. The reason for this shame is the perception shared by a large number of people of bed-wetting as a child's disorder. The adult bed wetter realizes the negative public perception of bed-wetting and as a result, many adults don't seek treatment and resign themselves to wearing diapers at night.

Bed-wetting it seems carries more of a stigma than other forms of incontinence. Why this is so is puzzling to me. While younger children are not immune from feeling embarrassed about this condition it seems that the older one gets the more embarrassed one feels.

Due to the stigma associated with nocturnal enuresis there is tremendous pressure with most people to cure it, and while I believe that a person should consider different methods to cure their bed-wetting and be open to trying new treatments when they become available, there are a number of factors that should be kept in mind. First of all, it can sometimes be more distressing and embarrassing going to countless doctors and specialists and having endless tests and procedures done without success. Second, there are many instances of people trying a wide variety of treatments to cure their bed-wetting without success and unfortunately there may always be circumstances in which the bed-wetting can't be resolved for whatever reason.

Third, some people might not be happy with the options available to treat their bed-wetting and prefer to wear diapers instead-as hard as it is for most people to believe there are people that prefer to use diapers to manage their bed-wetting! The reason for this is that in some cases the cure can be worse than the disease and bed-wetting and the various techniques used to cure it is no exception. For example, I have heard and read that bed-wetting alarms can disrupt a child's sleep patterns and as a result the child has difficulty both staying awake and being able to focus in class. While I am not aware of any studies corroborating this, the possibility that this might occur with some individuals should be considered. If the parents choose to use a bed-wetting alarm they should monitor the youngster's sleep patterns and if the youngster reports any difficulties then the parents should discuss these problems with the physician. If it looks like these symptoms might be a result of using the alarm and if these problems persist or get worse over time they should consider discontinuing use of the alarm.